Toilet Training & Autism: What No One Tells You (But You Need to Know)

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Hey there, amazing parent!

Toilet training can be challenging for any child, but for autistic kids, it’s often about more than just learning where to go.

Sensory sensitivities, difficulty recognizing body signals, and struggles with change in routine can make this milestone feel overwhelming—for both kids and parents.

If you’ve tried and felt stuck, frustrated, or completely unsure what to do next, you’re not alone. 

But here’s the good news: Toilet training doesn’t have to be a battle. With patience, the right approach, and some small adjustments, you can help your child feel safe, confident, and successful.

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Why is Toilet Training Harder for Autistic Kids?

The truth is, toilet training isn’t just about learning a new skill—it’s about processing change.

• Sensory Sensitivities: The sound of flushing, the feeling of sitting on a toilet, or the sensation of wiping can be overwhelming.

• Delayed Body Awareness: Many autistic kids struggle with recognizing the urge to go or understanding how their body signals work.

• Resistance to Change: Moving from diapers to the toilet can feel unpredictable and uncomfortable, especially if routines are a big source of comfort.

• Communication Barriers: If your child is nonverbal or struggles with expressive language, it may be harder for them to tell you when they need to go.

Knowing these challenges means you can prepare better. So, let’s talk about how to make toilet training work for your child.

How to Make Toilet Training Easier (Without the Stress!)

Let’s follow the steps!

Create a Visual Toilet Routine

A step-by-step visual guide (with pictures or symbols) can help break down the process into easy, predictable steps.

Example: 🩲 Pull down pants → 🚽 Sit on toilet → 🧻 Wipe → 🚰 Wash hands → 😊 All done!

Start with Small Steps (Even Before You Expect Them to Go!)

Let your child get comfortable with the bathroom—flushing, washing hands, and just sitting on the toilet (fully clothed at first!). Gradually introduce the idea of actually using the toilet, but never rush the process.

Use Sensory-Friendly Adjustments

If the toilet feels too big or unsafe, a small potty or a toilet seat insert with handles can help. Try soft lighting, noise-canceling headphones, or a preferred toy to make bathroom time feel safe and predictable.

Teach “Bathroom Language” in a Way That Works for Your Child

If your child is nonverbal, use gesture cues, PECS (Picture Exchange Communication System), or an AAC device to help them communicate when they need to go. If they’re verbal, practice simple phrases like “I need the bathroom” or “Potty time.”

Celebrate Small Wins (Even Sitting Counts!)

Whether your child sits for 5 seconds or tries wiping for the first time, every step is progress—so celebrate with high-fives, stickers, or their favorite activity!

What If It’s Not Working? (Common Challenges & Fixes)

• My child refuses to sit on the toilet: Try sitting fully clothed first, then slowly introduce sitting without a diaper over time. Make the toilet feel like a “safe place” before adding expectations.

• They go in their diaper but won’t go on the toilet: Some kids fear the sensation of going into an open space. Try letting them wear diapers while sitting on the toilet, then slowly transition by cutting a hole in the diaper over time.

• They don’t tell me when they need to go: Toilet training = teaching body awareness. Try scheduled toilet times and reinforce body signals by saying, “Your tummy is full; time to go potty!”

• They panic about flushing/wiping: Let them flush from a distance first (or use ear protection), and try gentle, fragrance-free wipes for easier cleanup.

The key? Be patient. 

It’s not about quick results—it’s about creating comfort and confidence in the process.

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More Helpful Reads for Daily Routines & Independence

Toilet training is just one of many milestones that can feel overwhelming, but building daily routines and understanding your child's unique needs can make the process smoother. 

Here are some blogs that might help:

🔹Why Does a Child with Autism Need Occupational Therapy?
Occupational therapy helps children develop essential life skills—including routines that support toilet training. See how it can make a difference!

🔹Can Speech Language Pathologists Diagnose Autism?
Communication is a key part of toilet training! Learn how speech-language pathologists support children in understanding and expressing their needs.

🔹 10 Early Signs of Autism in Toddlers
Recognizing early challenges—including sensory sensitivities—can help parents approach milestones like potty training with more confidence and patience.

Alright, now it’s your turn!

How’s toilet training going in your home? Rate this newsletter and let us know what’s been working for you!

🌟 5 stars – This was SO helpful—I’m ready to try these ideas!
⭐ 4 stars – Great tips, but I need more help!
😊 3 stars – Some useful ideas, but I’m still figuring it out.
🙃 2 stars – Meh, I need a different approach.
🤔 1 star – Toilet training is still a mystery, but I’m trying!

And hey—if you’ve found a toilet training trick that worked, we’d LOVE to hear it! 

Hit reply and share your experience with us.

💙 Until next time, take it one step at a time!

- The Raising Brilliance Team